More than you can handle?

2/16/2016:

As I write this I ponder the world around me, advice I have been given and how I can change the chaos that surrounds me.
I can't, I can only control myself.

I have been through several life changing events within my entire life.

It's been said, "God will not give you more than you can handle" and "Everything happens for a reason". 

These two statements, are very powerful.

1 Corinthians: 10:13

Women's Devotional Bible (NIV)

"No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is Faithful, he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it."

My interpretation: 

I believe this actual scripture involves temptation, not tribulations. 

I do believe things happen due to free will, succumbing to sin and leaving God, not putting him first and not thinking before acting or just being a victim of circumstance.  

Life is not fair. 

Life is more of a game than just black and white. 

Things happen, good and bad. 

Things happen to everyone. 

Rich, Poor, Old, New, Gay, Straight ect. 

Sometimes we survive and sometimes we do not. 

I believe that the way you handle yourself when going through a valley of despair ultimately determines your character. 

Humbling yourself and asking for help, praying, helping others, and living the Golden Rule will help move one from the valley back to the mountain. 

My second topic: 

"Everything happens for a reason." This actual quote was stated by Aristotle in his early years. 

"The well-known Greek Philosopher Aristotle, believed that everything happens for a reason, always. And that every experience in your life, was designed to shape you and reform you into the ultimate and greatest version, that could ever imagine yourself to be. The only thing that prevents this, is having the wisdom to see it."

We are all human, we all have free will and we all go through valleys and mountains. 

Try to think positive. 

Know that wherever you are in life, someone is doing worse than you. 

Be thankful. 

Send encouraging thoughts to someone else, this will refresh them and relieve your pain. 

My challenge to you: (pick 1 or many)

1. Buy someone a coffee today.

2. Pay for their newspaper

3. Send an actual piece of mail to someone, let them know you are thinking of them. 

4. Call someone and tell them you love them. 

5. Smile at someone. 

6. Let that person in front of you while you are driving. 

7. Smile at yourself. 

8. Make a funny face to a child. 

9. Put up trash on the road. 

10. Pass out homeless bags. 

Peace, love and happiness. 

DM

Forgiveness

To those that doubt me, spite me and enjoy hurting others:

I have endured an immense amount of pain and trauma during the last two years of my life. 

I feel as though, I am plotted against by those that are broken. 

I am broken, you are broken, we are all broken in some way or another. 

Brokenness can be described in my words: A person without the ability to cope or insufficient abilities or lack of education in coping, a jealous person, a sociopath, a previously abused individual (mentally, physically, or verbally), those that have been bullied, beaten up, drug through the mud, those suffering from mental illness, those that accept the awful hand they are dealt without fighting back, those who think money is everything yet love is nothing, child abusers, naysayers, pessimists, those who manipulate or demand the ability to control every situation. Those whom are addicts smoking, drinking, gambling, porn, compulsive eating, ect. The list can continue forever. 

Those who are broken have choices:   

1. seek help: addictive personalities tend to "cope" by becoming addicted to what make them happy and escape reality.

2. Blame others: historically I have seen this as a trend amongst control freaks, sociopaths and women. 

3: Denial: Some broken individuals, will never realize the state or their brokenness as they continue down the path of evil, these individuals will   Hurt others through slanderous acts, betrayal, lies and manipulation. These broken individuals are the ones, that I feel for the most. When a person can convince another individual of lies and manipulate others without any feelings of remorse, it is scary. 

 

I am a believer in Christ. 

I believe that through the acts that have been bestowed upon me by a broken one, my life will only achieve greatness. I am a survivor, I am a leader and a fisher of men. I believe the truth always comes out in one way or another. 

I look back at the story of Job. 

Job was a humble man. His life was filled with trials and tribulations but yet he never doubted God. 

He had a purpose. 

I do believe that everyone has a purpose in life. 

I know that my purpose is to help others. 

As, I walk down my path of life I doubt myself A LOT. 

I question whether or not the decisions I make are correct, REPEATEDLY. 

Sometimes I feel as though, I am alone in this gigantic world. 

With the sadness, tragedies and loss I have endured I have come to realize that I am God's child. 

I choose my destination, whether or not I choose the correct path that God has chosen for me, God is with me. Our God is a forgiving God.

 

Me, not so much. Forgiveness is difficult for me. 

I struggle to forgive those that have hurt me. Those that have slandered me. Those that have made false accusations about me. 

I fail as a Christian, daily. As I am sure we all do. 

We are not perfect, yet we strive to be and fail. 

If you have never failed at anything, you have never tried anything. 

Forgiveness is definitely a set-back for me. 

Why should I forgive people that are so mean, so hateful, so vindictive and spiteful against me?

Because Jesus would. 

This is definitely a life goal to forgive those that have harmed me. 

Sometimes, I wonder why would these things happen to me, why does God have so much faith in me when I do not feel the faith within myself. 

I've been told God, will not give one more than they can handle. 

Wow, he must really think I am Iron Mom. 

As I conclude, I will continue to be the best human I can, I will attempt to forgive those that sin against me (it's a process and I am stubborn), I will continue to help others and help guide those that seek guidance. 

In the meantime, I ask this, who have you not forgiven? Are you broken? What is your coping mechanism after an attack by a broken one? 

Xxoo

Dana