7 dumbass trendy teen observations.

7 Dumbass Trends I have observed with Teenagers. 

April 22, 2016

Written by: Danalthemom

1. Cutting: this is dangerous. If you harm your body in any way to ease your emotional distress, you are in need of psychological help.  Please call the national self-harm/ suicide hotline. (1-800-551-800) It's a confidential phone call. Self Harm in any manner does not make you cool. In fact it makes you more susceptible to many types of infections. 

2. Eraser challenge: wtf? 🤔 Why do you want a permanent scar from a pencil eraser because  you HAD to prove that you were cool enough to do it. Really. You are not cool, you are stupid for accepting a dumbass challenge. 

3. Salt/ice: Are kids really doing this? Yes. seriously. This can also be referred to as a chemical burn. It hurts like hell. This only makes you cool when you touch the ice. Don't do this dumbass challenge. 

4. Chain letters: it's annoying, stop sending stupid ass shit via email, Twitter, Instagram or whatever other means of communication that is chosen. -I'm not going to win a million dollars -get my legs cut off-be sent to Colorado for endless "Toke-a" parties- become a princess of India-be struck by lightening or inherit Bill Gates' estate. It's not happening. 

5. Mine Craft: I am certain pixelated art is uber enlightening as well as that dumbass that posts videos on YouTube. Oregon Trail was educational as well on the late 80's lets reintroduce that game⁉️.  

Can someone explain why this is a "learning game"?                              

Reading a book is also a "learning game". Usually it requires one to be able to read though....🖥📚

6. Hyper sexual everything:  I remember when I was in middle school we didn't talk much about sex, only in health class and that was rare. It wasn't until High School did our generation become more sexually aware. Today, in 2016, turn your television on for 10 minutes, channel surf, how many messages that talk about sex, have sexual references, hidden messages. I logged 10 out of 15 commercials. Have you seen what girls are wearing today? Wow. Cover-up, don't be a slut. 

7. Bullying: what happened to the good old days when people actually talked out issues?  

Had a a small brawl, then became friends again.  🤕💪🏻                                    

  Now the kids have evolved into mini-demons picking, harassing, threatening, "ganging up on".        Guess what? 

No one is spared, not the cool kids, not the smart kids or the goth kids or any other "type".          

 Kids are bullied at school, home, the bus, on all forms of social media... ect ect ect.                                                 Wtf, is wrong with kids nowadays?       

  I will tell you.                                         

We as parents, are no longer allowed to discipline our children, the way we were disciplined.    

                          •Gone are the days where the dreaded "go pick a switch" was the ultimatum when   wrongdoings were done.                                                

      •No more soap in the mouth for cursing or disrespect.⁉️                                           

      •No more sending a kid to bed hungry because he "doesn't like" what you made.      🍏🍆🍓🍳                                              •No more instinctive slaps to the cheek when profanities or disrespect spew out of a child's mouth.                         😱All of these are now considered child abuse.  🤗🤔😡                                               

  •We can, of course, over medicate our children because they all have ADD or Bi-Polar disorder.                             

Mainly because we are too damn lazy to actually listen, respond and react to our children. We instead focus on ourselves, our needs and buy the love of our children...                           

Spoiling them with fast food 🍔🌮🌭

an endless supply or violent video games and consoles. 💻🕹.            

Way to go USA. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

•America wonders why our mental health rates are rising along with obesity in children and lower test scores, must be the damn chicken. 🐔.•

Can you think of any others?

Let me know. 

✌🏻️❤️😊

Danalthemom 

Supporting the "Gay" community

To the ones that spread hatred towards the LGBT community. 

I support anyone involved within the community. I also despise those spread hatred. So, here's my Insight and thoughts on the subject  from a non-gay white girl perspective. 

-Don't be afraid of what others think. 

-Our higher power made you who you are today. (not sure if you are Christian so please don't take offense) 

Embrace that. 

-It takes courage to stand up and reveal that you are a Homosexual, bisexual, transgender, lesbian ect. 

-You are very courageous in many ways. 

-Be unique. 

-Be yourself. 

-Don't let others take away your happiness. 

-If your neighbors, "friends", co-workers, family ect. interfere, call the police. 

-Your personal business is not their business and vice versa. You have rights. 

Here is a simple remedy to alleviate your stressors. 

-I would do is type a letter to said individual using verbiage below. 

Dear (name):

As you may know, I am a LGBT individual. My boyfriend, husband, girlfriend, wife,  significant other is As well. 

Please be aware of this, as you continue to berate me, discriminate against me, destroy my property and attempt to humiliate me. I have rights as an American citizen, I am free to love whom I choose, as well as being entitled to freedom of speech. 

 If you insist upon making a mockery of yourself, please exit my life, move, or talk to the wall. As these negative and hate-filled comments are discriminating and hurt me, which I am sure is your purpose. 

I do not appreciate your negativity and hatred towards me and the community I am currently involved within. 

I'm certain, you hold skeletons in your closet or secrets as well. 

I was brave enough to reveal mine. 

Your continued harassment and guile will not be tolerated and I will be forced to file legal charges against you if it continues. 

"Those without sin, cast the first stone."

Wishing Happiness, peace and love

Namasté 

Your horrible gay neighbor. 

Xxoo

Wage Gaping: Myth or Fact part 1

Wage Gap: Male vs. Female Part I

Most people report that they believe they are paid wages similar to those of the opposite sex. 

Statistical surveyed studies prove that the Wage Gap controversy between men and women is  considerable due to problems within the workplace, dedication, attention to detail, innovative thinking and physical attributes (required for particular positions) and the infamous "don't ask, don't tell" (unofficial policy of sharing wages or salaries with co-workers.) Lest we forget generalities of human nature and learnt perception from early childhood to adulthood. 

Case Studies & Surveys:

These two generalized accounts do not add the general major factors when determining raises and reviews. Top reasoning surveyed accounting for problems in the workplace:

1. Missing Work

2. Working Overtime

3. Dangerous working conditions 

Statistics show:

•  Men spend more time at work, they are 60% more likely to die at work and  choose educations in fields that are classically "manly" such as mathematics or engineering. 
• While Women spend less time at work, are family focused and choose education in Humanities, Communication and Marketing. 

Though, over the years there has been an occupational shift resulting in tremendous Wage Gaping. 

General wants and Needs:

I believe the gender pay debate boils down to what people want in general. If one wants a more comfortable job, or one that does not stress the brain/body so much, then a lower pay is to be expected.

I believe some (not most) men are willing to risk more, than women to get ahead, which tends to make them more pragmatic, harder working and less focused on family/social activities while women are more pragmatic in other aspects of life, like procreation and family/home construction, which contrasts with risk taking. Therefore determining that a man works harder than a woman and deserves more money than she. 

Apples to Oranges

Pay gap studies do not compare engineers to social workers. Generally, what statistics  fail to consider is basic social conditioning that we're all exposed to from childhood onward.

• Women tend to settle for comfy jobs and don't do "real" work as indicated by several Harvard studies indicating that a man's quality of work is inherently better than a woman's. 

It's the same perception that many people in society share, and that's why when an employer goes to pay his or her workers, they often subconsciously pay a female employee less compared to a male counterpart. 

• The inverse can also happen in fields where women are perceived as the natural workers. In humanities, the man will often be paid less. 

Overall Wage Gap suffrage:

Across the World, most to all genders agree that it is more common for women to suffer from the wage gap than men. It's rarely intentional, but this type of snap judging is happening all the time subconsciously. This is why the Gender Pay controversy and its transparency over salaries, becomes a topic of debate. 

Don't ask, Don't Tell

Most employees themselves can determine whether or not their pay is fair in comparison to their co-workers. This is why the employer states "Do not share your salary with your co-workers" 

Most would like to trust that they are making the same rate without knowing for sure, though most do not adhere and fail to follow the proper "don't ask, don't tell" salary policy within their company. Which is human nature and curiosity kills the cat. When addressing pay inequality it is beneficial to both men and women because pay disparity happens to everyone depending upon the field of choice. Regardless of educational experience, qualifications and seniority. 

Engineering and Sciences:

Men are perceived as inherently better in Mathematics and Science, boys are encouraged at young ages to pursue these fields while women are pushed more towards the humanities or administrative fields. 

Taking into consideration social conditioning and societal construction the entire field of psychology is diminished and the debate is over. Nobody wins.

Life moves on. 

Capabilities: Men vs. Women

Men and women are equally capable of most tasks, although American women are  generally not encouraged to go into engineering and science and thus they do not pursue the fundamentals required to obtain similar opportunities and build up the skill set required. During the last 10 years, women and men have exceeded expectations, changed and evolved from the once gender-specific roles in which they were encouraged to disengage from due to various factors. Peer influence, cultural upbringings, educational background and the initial perception of society that we all carry from birth.

"Men Hunt, Women have babies."

Our gender does not determine our self value, our intelligence nor does it determine our future occupation, current occupation or our destiny.

Our gender basics have been taught from birth, passed from Generation to Generation.

For Example:
Boys 1950's-Present
Little boys historically are given toy guns, allowed to get dirty and collect bugs.
Collect plastic army men, GI Joes and baseball cards.
Open doors for women and girls and elderly.
Taught to be chivalrous and stand up for what they believe in.
Boys are taught to be tough and not cry.
Be the protector and "whoop some ass", if they feel the need.
Learn to hunt, because that's a real man.

Girls 1950's-Present
While the little girls were taught to wear dresses, curl their hair, always be proper.
The girls were never taught to hunt, allowed to play in the dirt, or with plastic army men.
They were given Barbies, dolls and costumes to play dress-up, an easy-bake-oven to cook.
Instilled in their brains they would be mothers, housewives and nurses.
Taught that danger is for the boys and fixing the problems of others is a priority.

These basics are learnt from birth:
Read an old magazine, the proof is in the pudding as they say.

It's nature (Men) versus (Women) nurture. 

Thus, the reasoning behind the gender swapping change and diverse employment spread through the sexes. We are all unique. We have our own brains and it took us 50 years to realize it.
For this same reason we Americans as a whole are pushing for equal treatment of men and women, so that the same opportunities will present themselves to both genders now and in the future for all people red, white, black, gay, straight. 

Physical Differences: 

Scientific studies show: Men's brains are better with math and spatial reasoning and hands on tasks, while women's brains lean more towards language, communication and fine motor skills.
Science- Our DNA, our socioeconomic status, and Education ultimately determines the way that men and women develop and which skill sets are dominant.   

Internal and External differences:

Men and women are different.
Both physically and mentally.
Size, strength, and balance are a few examples of the physical side.
Mentally men and women have completely different brains.

The average male brain is 10% larger, and contains more grey matter, while women contain more white matter. 

The different areas of the brain, and they way they are developed differ quite dramatically ultimately determining the career path, education and skills needed for the career of choice.
Although times are changing, occupations between sexes are becoming more and more diverse alas causing the increase in Wage gaping. 

Final statement: 

The Gender wage gap is not a myth, it is hardcore fact. Judging a potential employee is human nature.
"Always make a good first impression".
One of many common statements we are taught as young children. 

Ultimately, Men and women are going to be judged based on their gender, and the general bias of who is more capable to get the job done, life is unfair like that sometimes, it is human nature. 

Human nature is instinctual, and rightfully so, as it is backed up by many scientific studies and will likely continue for years to come. 

Thoughts?

Peace, love & Happiness

Danalstane

Gaping at the GENDER level
Small Business Gender Gaping

More than you can handle?

2/16/2016:

As I write this I ponder the world around me, advice I have been given and how I can change the chaos that surrounds me.
I can't, I can only control myself.

I have been through several life changing events within my entire life.

It's been said, "God will not give you more than you can handle" and "Everything happens for a reason". 

These two statements, are very powerful.

1 Corinthians: 10:13

Women's Devotional Bible (NIV)

"No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is Faithful, he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it."

My interpretation: 

I believe this actual scripture involves temptation, not tribulations. 

I do believe things happen due to free will, succumbing to sin and leaving God, not putting him first and not thinking before acting or just being a victim of circumstance.  

Life is not fair. 

Life is more of a game than just black and white. 

Things happen, good and bad. 

Things happen to everyone. 

Rich, Poor, Old, New, Gay, Straight ect. 

Sometimes we survive and sometimes we do not. 

I believe that the way you handle yourself when going through a valley of despair ultimately determines your character. 

Humbling yourself and asking for help, praying, helping others, and living the Golden Rule will help move one from the valley back to the mountain. 

My second topic: 

"Everything happens for a reason." This actual quote was stated by Aristotle in his early years. 

"The well-known Greek Philosopher Aristotle, believed that everything happens for a reason, always. And that every experience in your life, was designed to shape you and reform you into the ultimate and greatest version, that could ever imagine yourself to be. The only thing that prevents this, is having the wisdom to see it."

We are all human, we all have free will and we all go through valleys and mountains. 

Try to think positive. 

Know that wherever you are in life, someone is doing worse than you. 

Be thankful. 

Send encouraging thoughts to someone else, this will refresh them and relieve your pain. 

My challenge to you: (pick 1 or many)

1. Buy someone a coffee today.

2. Pay for their newspaper

3. Send an actual piece of mail to someone, let them know you are thinking of them. 

4. Call someone and tell them you love them. 

5. Smile at someone. 

6. Let that person in front of you while you are driving. 

7. Smile at yourself. 

8. Make a funny face to a child. 

9. Put up trash on the road. 

10. Pass out homeless bags. 

Peace, love and happiness. 

DM

Men are human.

Men: They are human too. 

February 12, 2016

Today I was reading my "Women's Devotional Bible", Proverbs 12.

I came across a short devotional written by: Nancy Corbett Cole. As I read this devotional I had an epiphany, I am guilty of deprecating humor at my husbands expense. 

I have never really thought that me, "enjoying to make my husband blush" was deprecating. 

It never really even ever came to mind. 

In society and in childhood we as women are taught that men are ego-filled, sexual, over-worked individuals and that if they cry or have any sense of emotion they are weak. 

This is clearly a false statement. 

Men, are human. 

They have feelings. 

They hurt, they get embarrassed, they have an overwhelming sense of potential failure to family, friends and employers, they are tender yet keep a strong she'll to cover all I said above. 

We, as women tend to treat men as if they do not have these problems or feelings. 

We learned this from adolescence and have carried it into adulthood. 

"He can handle it, He's a man, It doesn't bother him" common statements I myself have thought. 

These statements are so very false, men have feelings. The validity of my adolescent and current thoughts of men have been extremely humiliating. 

Not intentional or spitefully, but laughing whilst he cringed inside, I never realized how I could be damaging my relationship as well as my children's potentional outlook on life. 

Wow, how immature, unloving and humiliating I have been. 

Being a woman, I have never put myself into the mental shoes of a man and thought, "I may be hurting his (my significant others) feelings. 

This never occurred to me. Not once. 

I have been envious of men, yearning to be treated equally, paid equally and treated like a woman. 

Though I have never thought of the feelings, thoughts or possible hurt that men go through on a daily basis. 

I am quite ashamed of myself. 

I feel quite selfish and less understanding when I always thought that gaining a laugh at my significant others expense would be helpful. When in all reality, I was harming him more than helping. 

Men are human.

Living, breathing mammals. 

Keepers of the home. 

Those are huge tasks. 

Probably more overwhelming, than one may think. 

Take a moment today to apologize to the man in your life. 

Listen to them. 

Empathize with them. 

Understand they are human too. 

A great scripture verse that would reiterate my thought process would be:

Proverbs 12:18

"Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing."

Grab your significant other and tell them, I am sorry.

Good things come to those who wait.

Have you ever had one of those days, where you feel like the world is crashing, you can't find your balance and emotions run through your mind like birds flying south for the winter?

I have.

Numerous times. 

Lean on God. 

Ask for guidance. 

December 23, 2015:

I read Proverbs 23. 

Throughout the chapter I learned to give it to God, there is a lesson in this. Learning to give it to God. 

I am a fixer. I want things done on my own time. When I want them done. 

After reading this passage, I was completely amazed at the ignorance of me, I was amazed that regardless of what I am going through, God always has a plan.

I have been told to give my problems to God many times, to ask for guidance and open my heart. OK, I listen to pretty much every other word of what people say. Because well, my brain functions in this order:

what did I forget, let me look for _______ maybe it's outside.. Aw, how cute look at that squirrel, maybe I should make him a treat, What did I come outside for? I guess I'll feed the animals, we need more food, maybe I should make some more treats for the dogs, and the squirrels, what did I come out here for? Oh, yea my address book ( I walk to my car, slip and I fall, getting my clothing covered in mud. ) crap, I need to do laundry anyway. ( my car is locked) crap, need to go inside to get he keys, I may as well start a load of laundry, crap we are out of laundry soap, I need to run to the store to get more, wait I think I have a coupon for that, let me look.....

On December 23rd, I was feeling lost. 

I needed my feet on the ground and brain less filled with negativity. 

With my mind filled with "things to do" I decided it would be best to do a quick bible study. 

I opened up my Bible and turned directly to Proverbs 23. 

(31 chapters in the book of Proverbs, 28-31 days in a month coincidental? I think not.)

I was so emotionally drained and the problems within me, are fixable. I just needed mental clarity, a path, a sign.... Anything. 

After reading this specific chapter, I was amazed. I felt relieved and healed. Everything started to make sense. 

God is good. Everyday. God is good. 

Here's a list of my favorites for the 23rd. 

Proverbs:

4:"Do not wear yourself out to get rich;have the wisdom to show restraint."

9:"Do not speak to a fool, for he will scorn the wisdom of your words."

18: "There is surely a future for you, and your hope will not be cut off."

19:"Listen, my son, and be wise, and keep your heart on the right path."

29: "Who has woe? Who has sorrow? Who has strife? Who has complaints?"

I also learned a very helpful prayer. This will become part of me. When I am anxious, worried, filled with self doubt or a situation beyond my control, (ultimately we cannot control any situation)

 I have decided this will be my go to prayer:

"Dear Heavenly Father,

Jesus stand beside me. 

Guide and direct my life. 

Teach me what I need to know. 

Help me with my work. 

Let me serve you and others, that I may be worthy of God's grace. Amen"

I'm not what one would call a "bible thump-er" nor do I push my beliefs on others. 

I'm a Christian, I do not attend church regularly because of my insecurities and past shuns. 

Alas, I am a believer. 

I believe there is a God, I believe in angels and I believe that everything happens for some reason or another. 

Everyone has a path, in one way or another we can change our path based on free-will. 

I also believe that God would never harm another just open the eyes of the sinner and point them in the right direction. 

Whether or not that person chooses to listen is on them. (Free-will)

I have Christian friends, friends that study Hinduism, atheist friends, friends that believe in evolution etc etc. 

Each have their own reasoning and believe what that wish due to whatever reasons. I admire that. 

Everyone needs something to look forward too. To lean on in times of need. 

My prayer is for those that do not have a higher power. 

Blessed are those that do not believe, blessed are those that hurt, blessed are those that are lost. 

Much love,

Danal the mom. 

XX OO

Peace, Love & Rock n' Roll. 

Life is the fire filled sky

What do you think when you see this photo?

Do you think of God's greatness and his beautiful creations?

Do you wonder how the sky lights the way it does?

Do you wonder why with all the pain in the world beauty prevails?

Do you wonder why this photo was taken?

Do you wonder why fire of the sky is so breathtaking? 

Wonder is a small bit of child-like qualities we still possess as adults. 

Like playing pretend or have an imaginary friend.

Being happy, being filled with wonder and hope and happiness is lost somewhere when adulthood begins. 

We become overwhelmed with life, bills, money and stress. 

When did we lose ourselves.

 

When do we think being an adult is supposed to be filled with negativity and constant berating, self-hate, negative self-talk and the swirling life we live instead of being happy. 

What happened to happiness?

What happened to wonder?

What happened to our childhood mysteries and open minds?

Life changed us. 

Hate has changed us. 

Inequality has changed us. 

Race has changed us. 

Politics has changed us. 

Sin has changed us. 

Money has changed us. 

Chaos has changed us. 

I hope in the end, when all is said and done, six feet under- as our soul rises we become super heroes and fly through the sky peacefully without pain, without stress, without changes, just wonder and happiness.